Toxic Takeaways: The Problem With Ross from Friends

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  1. The Take

    The Take

    6 dagen geleden

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    • az21bob666


      2 dagen geleden

      they did write him as a good father he saw his son a lot,

    • Francisco Leyva Martin

      Francisco Leyva Martin

      2 dagen geleden

      You are stupid and ross is best

    • zitronentee


      3 dagen geleden

      I'm still waiting for the day The Take will take Crazy Ex-Girlfriend

    • az21bob666


      4 dagen geleden

      Ben was the reason. He missed even said I can't leave my son. People just over look stuff

    • az21bob666


      4 dagen geleden

      He refused to play tea party with his son.

  2. ha


    3 minuten geleden

    I see how you included the guy from the bar but I actually don’t think it’s that bad. So p, just hear me out. Yes, it was bad of him to not give her the note and everything, but before this, *Rachel* was the one to ask to put his love life on hold. During the time they’re raising Emma, SHE goes off and starts getting numbers. Now, it was only 2 guys (I think), but it’s the fact that she told him to put his life on hold and yet she still goes out and talks to guys. He shouldn’t be getting in the way of that but I’m just saying it’s unfair

  3. Lactic


    33 minuten geleden

    the "The one with the male nanny" episode was the defining moment for me to hate him as a character

  4. Chalchiuhtlicue


    51 minuut geleden

    The one thing I would say in defense of Ross regarding Susan and Carol, I don’t know why he’s being expected to be ok with the person his wife cheated on him with. That would take a while to be ok with, but it seems like he’s expected to be fine with being cheated on right away.

  5. pedro silva

    pedro silva

    Uur geleden

    First, Ross CARRIED the last seasons of Friends, second, Ross was always the most relatable person on Friends, what you call "toxic" also can be called being a human, and third, they WERE on a break!

  6. chaitalee kulkarni

    chaitalee kulkarni

    Uur geleden

    Cheating is cheating. Gender has no part on what and how the one being cheated on feels. Carol cheated on him during their wedding. And Ross was still accepting of her decisions post divorce. Had she cheated on with a guy, Ross wouldn't be friends with that guy, then why would he like Susan? Just because she's a woman? Ross still participated a lot for the sake of his child and tolerated Susan's attempts at being mean towards him. He had his flaws but he is nowhere near as toxic as he is portrayed in this video. He has done a lot of sweet things for everyone throughout the series without expecting anything in return, not even compliments. He had his baggage but doesn't make him a bad person.

  7. Tamim Ahsan

    Tamim Ahsan

    2 uur geleden

    Seriously? calling out ross geller, ted mosby type characters for their decisions..and suggesting Robin and rachel was saint and better is another whole level of bullshit.

  8. 김호현


    2 uur geleden

    What the f.. this is charactor who's supposed to be funny, not to be analized. Why dont you look into every single charactor from bigbang theory. If you laughed when you watched friends, that's enough.

  9. Dan-The-Man


    2 uur geleden

    I like the video, but at this point, we're beating a dead horse. I think it's common knowledge at this point that Ross is super problematic. It's not even hard to see why.

  10. Anamika Singh

    Anamika Singh

    3 uur geleden

    This video is crap .... 😂 I mean Ross is better than Rachel 😒

  11. Fabiano Carlos

    Fabiano Carlos

    3 uur geleden

    Ross is that "nice" guy that that threatens suicide if you as much as think about breaking up with him but ends up murdering you if you actually do leave him.

  12. Your boy J

    Your boy J

    3 uur geleden

    Rachel tried to ruined Ross and Bonnie relationship, guys are not just the problem

  13. Nenad Nidžović

    Nenad Nidžović

    4 uur geleden

    This is all great, except for the fact that Ross is not a real person. His character is designed to make us all laugh. And creators of the show were successful at that. He reacts in a funny way, and there is simply nothing more to it.

    • Christy


      3 uur geleden

      you're so right. no form of media or fictional character has ever had a real-life impact on the world, ever

  14. master12344


    4 uur geleden

    God Ross really was the WORST 😥

  15. Jackie Jack

    Jackie Jack

    4 uur geleden

    Shout out to the voice actress. April Barber. I see you, sis!

  16. Lendy H

    Lendy H

    5 uur geleden

    I never liked Ross.

  17. Tv Maniac

    Tv Maniac

    7 uur geleden

    1. Rachel also thwarted all of Ross's other relationships. She even flew in London with the intention of ruining his wedding 2. Rachel also makes fun and bellitles Ross's work. In fact everyone does 3. It's not toxic to antagonize the woman that got between him and his wife ruining their wedding. A lot of people do that. In fact, Rachel also does that with Mindy in the earlier episodes. 4. Chandler didn't care about him hooking up with Janice. And technically Ross started going out with Charlie first. It was Joey that made a move on her before Ross had the chance to 5. You say Ross uses his emotional damage with Carol as an excuse to manipulate Rachel. Phoebe also uses the trauma with her mother to manipulate everyone in the group 6. Ross's growth comes in the final season. Where he realizes he is being possesive with Rachel and vows to improve himself and even support her relationship with Joey. He also realizes that the job in Paris is better for her and he lets her go. And she choses to come back So what I am saying is, most of your points (especially for the first half of the show) are stretches. You could call all the characters in the show toxic with the right scenes. Or you could call none of them. Ross, as I said, did get more immature in the second half of the show for comedic effect but not more than Phoebe or Chandler in the first half. Or even Rachel But of course you don't talk about those because your purpose isn't objective analysis. But building a narrative against "toxic masculinity"

  18. Tv Maniac

    Tv Maniac

    7 uur geleden

    It's obvious to me what happened with Ross. Originally, chandler was supposed to be the emotionally impaired comedic relief that wasn't confortable with his masculinity But then the writers developed chandler, and he became the married everyman. The voice of logic. Which was Ross's original role. So to not have two similar characters and fill the void, they degraded Ross into the immature whiny one

  19. Jen Z. K.

    Jen Z. K.

    8 uur geleden

    Make a take on reachel I still think she is the most toxic character

  20. Brenner Purdy

    Brenner Purdy

    8 uur geleden

    This breakdown shows that if you act like Ross, you are the worst.

  21. Jiggy Armadilo Inocando

    Jiggy Armadilo Inocando

    8 uur geleden

    Why so serious and all for this? I mean, come on! Ross's character was meant to be that and it's really one of the main reason why F.R.I.E.N.D.S. is as funny as it is. And y'all will not react like this towards his character if he didn't nailed being that kind of Ross. So stop the hate and just appreciate. ^_^

  22. TerroTech


    8 uur geleden

    Do Rachel next! The ultimate toxic character

  23. Timothy Kao

    Timothy Kao

    8 uur geleden

    What a load of crap

  24. Danielle


    8 uur geleden

    Yes, ross always sucked

  25. Artico


    9 uur geleden


  26. JChris Eddy

    JChris Eddy

    10 uur geleden

    you say he couldve just moved to france, but what about ben? he has a son that cant just leave behind, and it would be completely inappropriate to ask Susan and Carol to move to france

    • maxaalexeeva87


      4 uur geleden

      Especially since he already tried to get them to move to London because of Emily! 😆

  27. Sera Tansey

    Sera Tansey

    10 uur geleden

    this reminds me of a lion turtle from Avatar the last airbender

  28. apieceoftrash


    10 uur geleden

    Honestly, all of Friends' characters were toxic, except for Phoebe and Joey Prove me wrong

  29. apieceoftrash


    10 uur geleden

    Honestly, all of Friends' characters were toxic, except for Phoebe and Joey Prove me wrong

  30. Eric karlong

    Eric karlong

    10 uur geleden

    I agree with pretty much all of this. But I do lament that Ross thought Rachel was with Mark. And as the season later proves he was right that Mark was interested in Rachel. But had he been confident it would have been a non-issue.

  31. Eric karlong

    Eric karlong

    11 uur geleden

    He's the nice guy that is toxic. The nice guy who thinks he's always in the right. The Fedora nice guy.

  32. Just Drea

    Just Drea

    11 uur geleden

    With very few exceptions, you nailed it. Many people (including me some time ago), used to see his behaviour as normal, and okay.

  33. Ishani Guhathakurta

    Ishani Guhathakurta

    12 uur geleden

    You totally skipped the parts when Ross was the sweetest person. You don't understand the writers designed the characters to be mean at particular situation because that's a human nature . No matter how much we deny it we sometimes unknowingly may act mean . Yeah I agree ross did have a lot of toxic moments but he also had some kind moments, for eg :- when he walked carol to the aisle , bought phoebe a bike , lend monica money , stopped dating Bcuz Rachel was pregnant , etc . So he had good sides AND bad sides which makes him normal like any other person .

  34. Jenny Tolios

    Jenny Tolios

    12 uur geleden

    Great video guys! And I've been saying for years that Ross Geller is SUCH an asshole! He exhibited so many characteristics of a malignant narcissist I could never work out why the rest of the gang kept him around...

  35. Darth Keto

    Darth Keto

    12 uur geleden

    Phoebe was almost as bad as Ross.

  36. Huong Le

    Huong Le

    13 uur geleden

    I always think of Friends as a sitcom that only aims to make the audience laugh so I never take anything from Friends seriously. That's why the characters barely make sense to me.

  37. Ståle Ovenberg

    Ståle Ovenberg

    14 uur geleden

    On the other hand, all his faults make him a funny character. We laugh of his insecurities. I would never have called him toxic in the setting of a sit-com.

  38. Black Lung

    Black Lung

    14 uur geleden

    Imagine being offended by Friends lol

  39. Jaydeep Singh

    Jaydeep Singh

    14 uur geleden

    Excellent. Learned a lot. Thank you!

  40. Kapilthev Kenway

    Kapilthev Kenway

    14 uur geleden

    Ross and Mona were the best couple but then the pregnancy ruined it :(

  41. Marcelo Henrique Chaves

    Marcelo Henrique Chaves

    15 uur geleden

    When i watched the first time, i hated him. Years later when i re-watched it from the beginning, i actually saw how extremely well written he is. He's a toxic person, masquerading as a a victim. And of course David Schwimmer did an extraordinary work as portraying him. He has the BEST face expressions by far in the series. So in the end i still dislike Ross. I would never be his friend in real life. But i love the character in the show. Since he demonstrate that personality really well.

  42. Jigyasa


    15 uur geleden

    THIS VEDIO IS TOXIC!! Yes Ross had some toxic things about him but so does all the other characters. And that's the thing about humans. We all have flaws. He is depicting a character only ( which is relatable to the typical men of the society ) . But that doesn't mean you guys should throw hatred at him. He is a good actor and he played his role very well. If you are talking about toxicity in FRIENDS character then talk about everyone because everyone was flawed in some way or other. Don't be bias. His character had some good things too. For instance..he took responsibility of his baby with Carol while Carol cheated on him with Susan when they were married and Still he walked her to the aisle in their marriage. No men would do that. 😂 He bought Phoebe a bicycle when she told him that she never had one. He genuinely cared and supported Rachel at the time of her pregnancy. He really loved her in his own flawed way and so does Rachel. Rachel was flawed too. She went to stop his wedding with Emily when she knew they both loved each other. She advices Bonnie to be bald because she was jealous and insecure. So all characters have both sides. DONT FRAME HIM LIKE THIS OR ATLEAST IF YOU ARE DOING IT, DO THE SAME VEDIO FOR OTHER CHARACTERS AS WELL. 💯👍

  43. Aamu Aurora

    Aamu Aurora

    16 uur geleden

    I mean everything is fine, however Susan situation is bit more complex - she's also competitive and she regularly castrates Ross.

  44. StorksandStarks


    16 uur geleden

    There really needs to be a proper comparison between this video and the older video of yours - Ross and Rachel: Love worth waiting for. There are exact scenes from the show that you have interpreted in two different ways. For instance Ross not getting the marriage annulled has been explained as an 'unconscious sign of his repressed feelings' in the 'Love worth waiting for' video which is stated in very neutral, even a sympathetic tone for the tragedy of this long-drawn romance. In the current video the same scene is given as an example of Ross's toxic selfishness. Which is the correct interpretation? No wonder audiences are polarized on this matter.

  45. Rana H

    Rana H

    17 uur geleden

    You know what, he was the kindest character on the show, Joey the "show darling" always said inappropriate things to Monica and Rachel and made them uncomfortable and was a leech always relaying on others for money and food and Chandler always made fun of his friends in a condescending way like phoebe for example, he was nice to Joey just because he liked having a roommate who is a womenaizer, and back to Ross, Rachel really messed with his head, she always ruined perfect relationships he had just because she just felt jealous and abandoned when he was happy with someone else, she flew to his flipping wedding in London and ruined it, Rachel is spoiled and had to have everything by crying or acting vulnerable , and his first wife is a cheater, she cheated on him while they were married and forced him to only see his first born on occasion, so please stop acting all perfect, each character on the show has both good and bad in them, but Ross seriously was a good friend he was kind, generous and caring, the situation with Emily was bad but he really tried to make up for it but again Rachel wasn't helpful at all, the character didn't even once phone Emily to try to backup Ross and say anything to his then wife to help that mess that she caused and didn't help Ross when Emily asked that he never see her again, he isn't toxic what so ever, Rachel is 100% the most toxic character on the show.

    • Rana H

      Rana H

      16 uur geleden

      Finally, not every character whether it's on friends or in reality has to fit into the mold of perfection, every one is unique and should be accepted and we should to be tolerant with each other, human beings are not cloth you can cut and trim to fit you or anyone else. Plus over analyzing the characters like that will make you hate this show or any other show you watch, just watch it and enjoy, why ruin a flipping FICTIONAL show you watch, stop using the characters from friends to describe your personalities and likings for the love of God.

    • Rana H

      Rana H

      16 uur geleden

      Plus if you don't like Ross you are not an actual fan of the show, cause the core of the show is his relationship with Rachel and he has the funniest moments and reactions on the show.

    • Rana H

      Rana H

      17 uur geleden

      Ross is the best character on friends both as a friend and as a committed partner, only flaw about him was how he was so gullible when it came to Rachel, you're just framing Ross as the bad character cause talking about toxic masculinity is a popular thing now, but how about you do video on Joey and how he treated women like crap and him sexually harassing his female friends all the time, now this would be more convincing you won't be needing to twist any actual events that happened on the show to make them fall in your narrative like you just did with this video.

  46. jkb


    18 uur geleden

    Ross is a great character precisely because he's flawed. It's not like the show isn't aware of him being a manchild, in fact the jokes are explicitly about this. That's the joke.

  47. Alex Clementine

    Alex Clementine

    19 uur geleden

    I've always avoided Friends like the plague, but I'm still watching and agreeing 😶

  48. Paula Muñoz Verdú

    Paula Muñoz Verdú

    19 uur geleden

    THANKS FOR THIS VIDEO!!!! Ever since I started watching friends, I have hated Ross because of his toxicity and narcissism towards Rchel. She deserves so much more !! It is comforting to see somebody else thinks te way I do. I understand Ross went trough some bad shit that was really traumatizing to him, I wish the show had focused on his improvement (as they did with Rachel, who had more dreams apart from getting a partner) rather than making real his childhood dreams with her. I was really upset when they ended up together, in my opinion it would have been much more realistic and mature if they had understood they just didn't work as a couple. Thanks for this videos, I absolutely love them!

  49. Kriti Das

    Kriti Das

    20 uur geleden

    Can I dislike this video a hundred times.. Oh man grow up.. 1. This was just a show. 2. You can't judge a people by being so biased. Even Ross haters can see your biasness. 3. If you're saying Ross as an imperfect person, then who was the perfect.? Can you tell me... Like the way you analyzed Ross so biased , make some effort to analyse the other characters too.. I'm sure you will find more flaws in other characters. This show is too old, and yeah that's right not too old in some aspects. I can't write each and every good point about Ross, but he did so many good things.. Ross is not my fav character, I loved each and every character the same way. Because every character had flaws, because they were portraying humans, not GODs... Man no one is perfect... ARE YOU????

  50. HeartBlade 89

    HeartBlade 89

    21 uur geleden

    Honestly all the friends are bad people although Ross may be one of the worst. Let’s not forget Rachel’s quip belittling Ross as a girl after he gives in to his feelings to Sandy or Chandler gay bashing. The conflict with Susan is also understandable because she did steal his wife from him and essentially demanded everything. Ross apparently was a better person before his first divorce/betrayal. He needed therapy and a support group to address it but never got it. His lashing out at work was definitely a red flag and he gets a pill.

  51. Elijah Barongan

    Elijah Barongan

    23 uur geleden

    God I hate him so much. I can't even understand how people can watch this show, let alone like it. Ross is POISON.

  52. Hara Ayuhime

    Hara Ayuhime

    Dag geleden

    wow Ross sounds 100000% like my ex of 4 years.

  53. Hara Ayuhime

    Hara Ayuhime

    Dag geleden

    Friends paints all the six people as extreme caricatures

  54. Frink Fronk

    Frink Fronk

    Dag geleden

    women: 'be polite and be very careful about consent' also women, when ross asks if it's ok to ask rachel out it's toxic because he says 'would it be ok if i maybe asked you out sometime'. Doesn't that seem a little strange. I would much rather be polite and sensitive to consent.

  55. Katsuki Bakugo

    Katsuki Bakugo

    Dag geleden

    Ross was great guy. Yall just chose to see bad side if him

  56. Arun Tomsan

    Arun Tomsan

    Dag geleden

    Waiting for a video to dissect Rachel's character this way. But you won't do that, would you? 😂

  57. phoebe mah

    phoebe mah

    Dag geleden

    Ross hater? Or will there be another video of toxic takeaways of the other characters??? Cause I think every single one of them has their own personal issues in a same and different way not just him.

  58. Kat Edwards

    Kat Edwards

    Dag geleden

    They did make a movie- it’s called the devil wears Prada.

  59. Scribonius Thursday

    Scribonius Thursday

    Dag geleden

    The scene where they play poker terrified me when I re-watched friends for the first time as an adult. But David Schwimmer is apparently nothing like him IRL so I take comfort in that.

  60. Luna B

    Luna B

    Dag geleden

    Never watched this show. Did she end up giving up on her dream at the end?

  61. Phillip J. Roman

    Phillip J. Roman

    Dag geleden

    Ross is one of the worst characters in TV history.

  62. yugesh shaw

    yugesh shaw

    Dag geleden

    Well that's not the whole fact, actually rachel was always interfering with ross's other romantic relationships, she was the only reason of him not getting settled in any relationship

  63. Cherry Danielson

    Cherry Danielson

    Dag geleden

    He didn't cheat on Carol with Phoebe though. They were already broken up.

  64. Kyle Way

    Kyle Way

    Dag geleden

    This was a really intriguing watch i quite enjoyed it the only thing that confuses me though and i will admit its been awhile since I've seen the show but if i recall Ross didn't cheat on his first wife with Phoebe. Carol had been cheating on him and they had began to get a divorce aren't all cards off the table at that point

  65. jisha jj

    jisha jj

    Dag geleden

    He s meeeee

  66. EderHernandez


    Dag geleden

    So much went into criticizing a fictional charter.. lol

  67. Kiko Jones

    Kiko Jones

    Dag geleden

    I'm all for learning about and correcting toxic patterns and vicious circles, but psych deep dives on a silly character on a silly sitcom is, at best, an exercise in 'what-else-am-I-going-to-do-with-all-this-free-coronavirus-imposed-free-time?' nonsense.

  68. afroschlan


    Dag geleden

    I agree that the character Ross was kind of a dick but it seems the narrator is leaving out quite a lot of other outside factors in this pursuit of declaring "toxic masculinity" which is so popular with feminists these days.

  69. ange nymphadora

    ange nymphadora

    Dag geleden

    Other points are just nitpicking and trying to put scenes to fit the whole scenario, e.g. when ross scolds phoebe for thinking the cat was her mom: he did it because there was a boy who owns the cat and is looking for it. But over all, i do agree that ross is a man-child, and lashes out when his comfort zone is threatened. Watching this just reaffirms how brilliant the writing of the show is that a character was written so consistently, that he displays all these underlying characteristics the audience didnt even notice at the time.

  70. Nathan B.

    Nathan B.

    Dag geleden

    finally someone talks about it, Ross is f asshole

  71. BorntozaurX


    Dag geleden

    You realize he’s an over the top sitcom character, right?

  72. Daniel Peña

    Daniel Peña

    Dag geleden

    I think you guys should make a video about Owen Hunt from Grey's Anatomy. His masculinity is just as fragile as Ross's, he has no regards for women's feelings and he thinks the world owes him something

  73. Jordan Holland

    Jordan Holland

    Dag geleden

    I like ross as a character

  74. SOURCE w00t

    SOURCE w00t

    Dag geleden

    This is seriously unfair to Ross. You make some great points but a few of them were taken out of context.

  75. VeroAGO


    Dag geleden

    Lol, don't sugar coat it, tell us how you really feel about Ross!

  76. alberto reyes

    alberto reyes

    Dag geleden

    Ross is not the problem,...ross is the subconscious of the writers

  77. Alicia Nyblade

    Alicia Nyblade

    Dag geleden

    Thank you! I was a kid when "Friends" first aired, but looking at Ross and Rachel's story line as an adult, it's so disturbing that they eventually end up together. Rachel gave up her own growth and happiness to become Ross' ideal image of what a woman meant for him. That's not romantic, it's tragic and creepy. Reminds me of how Jane Eyre goes back to Mr. Rochester even after she gains independence from him and learns to be happy on her own.

  78. Riddle Man

    Riddle Man

    Dag geleden

    Quick note: that's how comedy works. It's taking truths about the world and finding a way to deflate it. Pennywise is scary only to those who couldn't laugh at Bozo. No duh the Friends actually suck, the point is everyone sucks, but things can suck a bit less when you don't have to trek through life alone. You're not uncovering some hidden truth, you were just too young at the time to fully appreciate the over all joke, and now your mad cause YOU took things too seriously.

  79. broncojuan


    Dag geleden

    I was with you right up to "The Break." It's not a "Pause," or a "Slow Down." Men are not mind readers, and if that wasn't what she wanted, she shouldn't have said it. Plus, he didn't use it as an excuse to sleep with somebody else, it was, in his mind, the lowest point of his life. When that happens you stop caring about the choices you make. And Rachel manipulated Ross every bit as much as he did her. Sabotaged his relationship with Julie, manipulated him to break up with Bonnie only to add stipulations following. They were the worst part of the show, but they both sucked.

  80. Mr CC

    Mr CC

    Dag geleden

    When they said "....Homophobia" the following formula came to mind: Mid thirties people who was 12 or 15 when Friends came out and now is just an analysis for them.

  81. Just Jesse

    Just Jesse

    Dag geleden

    When she said “male fragility” I dipped

  82. Delphine Joyce

    Delphine Joyce

    Dag geleden

    Let's hope the reunion sees them divorced

  83. Jennifer K.

    Jennifer K.

    Dag geleden

    Exactly my feelings. A better ending would have been that Ross had moved to Paris. Respect Rachel for once.

    • goodness


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      Friendly reminder that Ross… • Walked his ex-wife down the aisle after her parents refused to do so • Bought Phoebe a bike when he heard how she never owned one as a child - then taught her how to ride it • Loaned his little sister money when she was broke and told her there was no deadline for paying him back • After causing an accident which injured a little girl, sold cookies for her door-to-door to win her a trip to space camp and when he couldn’t win the trip for her, set up her own special space camp in Joey & Chandler’s apartment • Bought Joey’s porcelain dog as a gift so that Joey wouldn’t have to return everything when he lost his DOOL job • Stepped in to escort Rachel to prom when her date stood her up • Searched all night for Chandler when Chandler disappeared before his and Monica’s wedding • Agreed to not date anyone when Rachel asked him not to towards the end of her pregnancy, understanding that she was under enormous stress from the pregnancy and therefore allowed to be irrational • Told Carol that if her parents didn’t want her to marry Susan then it was their problem, and that she deserved to marry the woman she loved • Rescued his friends who were stuck in the middle of nowhere, then drove back home alone because Rachel didn’t want him to go with them • Gave up the opportunity to be on TV to help Rachel who had a broken rib (and then went to the hospital with her) • Told Joey that he could act on his feelings for Rachel • Most of the times, he was the only rational character on the show and the only one not afraid to speak his mind (e.g. when Phoebe thought that her mother was inside that cat, told Joey to take that cab driver role even if it was just a two-line part) • Refused to give up on his friendship with Rachel when Emily asked it to do so • Decided to stop playing his sound (lol) at Central Perk so that Phoebe could go back to singing • Gave the “Frankie Say Relax” t-shirt back to Rachel because he knew how much she loved that t-shirt and respected that she was moving on I hate how everyone these days shits all over Ross while completely ignoring all the shitty actions of every other character on the show, like Chandler being the one to make the most homophobic jokes or mock Ross and Joey whenever they did anything slightly feminine like the episode when Joey moves in with Janine or kissing Joey’s girlfriend, or Joey’s misogyny, or Rachel attempting to ruin almost every one of Ross' relationships such as Julie, Bonnie etc. Also people always act as if Rachel was too good for Ross or better than but she really wasn’t. I would say she was even more jealous than Ross. And the whole point of him not respecting her job, did anyone respect his? Ross’ profession of being a palaeontologist is one of the main jokes throughout the entire series as he is constantly mocked for it even though it matters to him. Wanted to point this all out because everyone seemingly forgets and it’s really bloody annoying! Also, SUSAN WAS HORRIBLE TO ROSS!! I’m so confused as to how people make it out to be the other way when she literally acts as if he was just the sperm donor when it comes to his own child, like not even wanting Ben to have his surname but hers. If Susan was a guy would Ross be expected to like the man his wife cheated on him with?? No!!! Susan was so entitled. How nice of Ross to even go to their wedding. And he didn’t cheat on Carol what on earth, she had already left him for Susan when he kissed Phoebe?? It’s like The Take made this video without even watching the show And obviously it was literally said in the show the reason Ross couldn’t have gone to Paris with Rachel was because of his son BEN. If he went you’d all say he was neglecting him!! Ross can never win

  84. Dayna Bailen

    Dayna Bailen

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    The fact that Ross is toxic is the joke. If they were all perfect wonderful people, it would be a boring show.

  85. vivavidavi


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    Love this channel! It's got the insight to talk about anything but moreover it's not afraid to show their true feelings. Ross and Rachel were meant to be? Not at all. But maybe that was what the audience needed at the time. Does not make it healthy and does not make it true. It was a toxic relationship that would not be liked today, and would not be celebrated at all.

  86. kjdp


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    Now do a Toxic Takeaways of Rachel which is a lot

  87. Lorenzo Bianchi

    Lorenzo Bianchi

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    Damn, it's a tv series, you are taking too much seriously.

  88. David Blum

    David Blum

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    I got news for you all the friends on friends were assholes and jerks. Each one had a shitty personality.

  89. Sarah Gold

    Sarah Gold

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    no one is talking about David y’all this is an analysis about ROSS 🙄he is a terrible and toxic CHARACTER NOT ACTOR

    • Sarah Gold

      Sarah Gold

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      yes he can do “good” things but he is still a bad person.

  90. Niamh HA

    Niamh HA

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    Off the top of my head, I remember that he... -tried to kiss his cousin -made a huge deal out of his child’s nanny being male -refused to get an annulment, just because it would hurt his ego (it’s not Rachel’s fault that he got married three times) -completely changed his feelings about a girl, just because she shaved her head -belittled Rachel’s career and attempts to do well in it -tried (and succeeded) to get Rachel to give up her dream job for him -dated his student -let his parents hate Chandler for something he did for years -got annoyed when his toddler played with a doll -was possessive of Rachel, even when they weren’t together

    • Yihong Qian

      Yihong Qian

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      -kissed best friend's mother

  91. cd


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    The entire show was awful. So no, not everyone loved Friends.

  92. Niamh HA

    Niamh HA

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    Ross was sweet and likeable in the earlier Seasons. Later on, he was creepy and problematic.

  93. Nerd,geek whatever

    Nerd,geek whatever

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    still my FAVORITE character

  94. Corinne S.

    Corinne S.

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    Thanks for explaining my entire last relationship

  95. Ivy Vandham

    Ivy Vandham

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    A good example of how fragile Ross his is the episode “The One With Chandler in a Box” Ross finds out Rachel exchanged a necklace he gave her and rather than understand it was gift and the recipient is allowed to do what they want with the gift, he spends Thanksgiving shaming and attacking her for exchanging the necklace. The rest of the friends have had Rachel exchange their gifts before and got laughs out of it but Ross completely loses it because he thinks Rachel must love and cherish everything I do with or for her because she is mine.

  96. Doug Kielmeyer

    Doug Kielmeyer

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    This video speaks as though he is a real person, and makes him an evil guy. IT WAS THE WRITING!!!! Which I am sure it was not controlled by people looking to put a man's best foot forward. The entire purpose of the show was to emasculate men and let women take the traditional male role. Screwed up huh?

  97. Syd


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    Jesus F Christ. It's FICTION!!!

  98. Ben


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    I have hated Ross all these years and now realize... I am Ross.

  99. Scott Donia

    Scott Donia

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    Fragile Male Masculinity? His first wife was a closeted homosexual who used him, was he supposed to be like "Hey thats cool, glad you found yourself!" which in the end he kind of was. The Rachel character was a maniac physco, who sabotaged all his relationships after she dumped him, including breaking up his second marriage. She then threatens, without consulting him, to take his daughter away to Paris! Male Fragility? If you reverse the Gender Roles, a women would have had a nervous breakdown. I don't like the idea that now if Men get crapped on they are just supposed to "take it" and if you don't you're "fragile".

  100. kirby 64

    kirby 64

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    FINALLY, someone gets it.